Say yes to the feelings even as you say no to the behavior
-Daniel j. Siegel
No Drama Discipline
Things you can say to your Kid
“Your behavior makes me/us feel _______. And we are probably going to _______ and then you are probably going to feel ______."
“How do you want to feel right now?”
“What do you need right now?”
“I’d like to feel _____ right now. What can you do so that I feel ____?”
“Thank you for being so flexible.”
Strategies to try at home
Give your child 2 reasonable choices. State them, and repeat them.
Divide up the day. Ask your child what they want to work for. Reward them after each chunk of time.
State the expected behaviors BEFORE the activity/plan occurs.